Why do we all remember the bad things with vivid clarity? For example, you could be having a wonderful day with everything going perfectly fine, but when you get a flat tire, that’s probably the only thing you’ll remember at night. In fact, that may be the only thing that you bring up in a conversation.
Or let’s say that you have been performing really well at your job for weeks or months, but the one day you make a mistake, and it doesn’t even have to be a costly one, your boss does not wait a second to point it out. But where was your boss all those other weeks or months ago? Why wasn’t he or she pointing out how wonderful of a job you were doing?
It takes one really amazing thing to make it memorable, but it takes only one tiny mistake to let it ruin your day. That has to change.
We need to make a conscious effort to reward others and ourselves for all the good things we are doing. We need to make a big deal out of good things and minimize the impact of the bad stuff.
It won’t be easy. We are hardwired to dwell in failure, but we can change that.
And now that I think about it, that’s the same way we treat God. We frequently ignore all the amazing things he does for us every single day, but the minute something bad happens, we raise our fists up to heaven in rage.
We need to be more thankful. I think if we take time to dwell on all the good things we have, we are better prepared to deal with disappointment and not drown ourselves in sorrow.